A SOULFUL RELATIONSHIP

An African proverb states, "Before you get married, keep both eyes open, andafter you marry, close one eye.

"Before you get involved and make a commitment to someone, don't let lust,desperation, immaturity, ignorance, pressure from others or a low self-esteem, make you blind to warning signs. Keep your eyes open, and don't fool yourselfthat you can change someone or that what you see as faults aren't really important.

Once you decide to commit to someone, over time his or her flaws, vulnerabilities, pet peeves, and differences will become more obvious. If you love your mate and want the relationship to grow and evolve, you've got to learn to close one eye and not let every little thing bother you. You and your mate have many different expectations, emotional needs, values, dreams, weaknesses, and strengths. You are two unique individual children of God who have decided to share a life together.

Neither of you are perfect, but are you perfect for each other? Do you bring out the best in each other?

Do you compliment and compromise with each other, or do you compete, compare, and control? What do you bring to the relationship? Do you bring past relationships, past hurt, past mistrust, past pain? You can't take someone to the altar to alter him or her. You can't make someone love you or make someone stay.

If you develop self-esteem, spiritual discernment, and "a life", you won't find yourself making someone else responsible for your happiness or responsible for your pain.

Manipulation, control, jealousy, neediness, and selfishness are not the ingredients of a thriving, healthy, loving and lasting relationship! Seeking status, sex, wealth, and security are the wrong reasons to be in a relationship.What keeps a relationship strong?

Communication, intimacy, trust, a sense of humor, sharing household tasks, some getaway time without business or children and daily exchanges (a meal, shared activity, a hug, a call, a touch, a note).

Leave a nice message on the voicemail or send a nice email.

Sharing common goals and interests. Growth is important. Grow together, notaway from each other, giving each other space to grow without feeling insecure. Allow your mate to have outside interest. You can't always be together. Give each other a sense of belonging and assurances of commitment. Don't try to control one another. Learn each other's family situation. Respect his or her parents regardless.

Don't put pressure on each other for material goods. Remember for richer or for poorer. If these qualities are missing, the relationship will erode as resentment, withdrawal, abuse, neglect, dishonesty, and pain replace the passion. The difference between 'United' and 'Untied' is where you put the I (you). It is indeed, where YOU put yourself in the situation.

Goodluck and Godbless!

fertilitys grace

fertilitys grace....
by : nicole concha

abc's of life

A - lthough things are not perfect

B - ecause of trials or pain

C - ontinue in thanksgiving

D - o not begin to blame

E - ven when the times are hard

F - ierce winds are bound to blow

G - od is forever able

H - old on to what you know

I - magine life without His love

J - oy would cease to be

K - eep thanking Him for all the things

L - ove imparts to thee

M - ove out of "Camp Complaining"

N - o weapon that is known

O - n earth can yield the power

P - raise can do alone

Q - uit looking at the future

R - edeem the time at hand

S - tart every day with worship

T - o "thank" is a command

U - ntil we see Him coming

V - ictorious in the sky

W - e'll run the race with gratitude

X - alting God most high

Y - es, there'll be good times & yes some will be bad, but...

Z - ion waits in glory...where no one is ever sad!

this was sent to me by a good friend of mine and i was moved by this the same way my friend was moved. thank you Orange!

you

i am held, frozen
by the beauty that is you
and for every motion of your words
that come upon my heart
for what is to love?
but to bask in your sunshine
and hear you silent voice
that always soothes my being
and even if our love's equality
may not be,
though it be sad,
i shall hold what love you have
to give

for when passion takes its toll
i shall be the knight
to hold
i'm watching you! says:
what love you have
to give
for when passion takes its toll
i shall be the knight
to hold you in this sweet reverie
of you
and your splendor

by kathleen mae meneses

isfank the monkee

i was reading the october issue of cosmo magazine when i came across the article of dra. margie holmes about premature ejaculation. i was engrossed about the article and i decided to research some more about the said sexual dysfuction. premature ejaculation occurs when a man reaches orgasm and ejaculates too quickly and without control. in other words, ejaculation occurs before a man desires it. it may occur before or after beginning foreplay or intercourse. some men experience significant personal distress because of this condition.

damn!! this is one serious shit!! imagine cumming immediately after penetrating the woman's love nest.. that ain't good!!

sadly, study shows that 1 out of 5 men suffer from premature ejaculation which is not bad because it is the easiest sexual dysfunction to deal with said dra. holmes. usually, the underlying cause is psychological. stress, depression and other factors that affect mental and emotional health can aggravate this condition.

hmmm... this is interesting. and the funny thing about this symptom is the medical solution on how we can corect the problem. here are some :

• squeeze technique - ff a man senses that he is about to experience premature orgasm, he interrupts sexual relations by squeezing the shaftof his thingy using his thumb and two fingers.
• take a pill - delayed orgasm is a common side effect of certain drugs, particularly those used to treat. this type of medication is given to men who experience premature ejaculation, it can help to postpone orgasm for up to several minutes.
• creams - available that can partially anesthetize (numb) the man's thingy and reduce the stimulation that leads to orgasm.
• use a rubber - the parachute thing that you cover your dick with so that nobody gets preagnant.

either of these techniques may interfere with the pleasure experienced during sex. makes me wonder if i am experiencing this symptom. well there's one way to find out.. to have as much sex i can. wahahahahahaha!! joke only, my wife won't permit that.. ahahahaha!

punch the keys

i remember the movie "finding forrester" which starred Sean Connery a writer who went into seclusion. he was accidentally found by an african american basketball star of a local highschool.

for those who have watched it, will understand how hard it is to think and write all at the same time. but what i remembered about the movie is when Sean Connery was talking to the boy he told him to "punch the keys! don't think!", if you think about it, blogging is all about that. you can write whatever you want, whenever you want, whatever that comes out of your head.

punch the keys! punch the keys! punch the keys!

another shitty day!!!

sigh! just woke up and got the same feeling that this day will just end up as shitty as yesterday! ever feel deprived on something? well i have, and seems that it's been part of my life's routine. i have no problems with routine, but if the routine is depriving me of happiness then it's not a routine worthwhile.

just spoke with my pakner just now thru MSN Messenger and i was telling him that i'm having a hard time writting posts here, that i have this thoughts in my head but i dunno where and how to start.

ALAS! i can see a picture now in my profile. WOHOO! thank you timber!!

crashing

CRASHING...term used by someone who underwent a night filled with Electrifying Energy due to Parteeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee.(if you know what i mean). today is not a good day for me. i've been like this after i got back from La Luz. BV or bad vibes i should say, there's a lot going inside my head right now too many to mention. it's like having a bee inside your head working working working and the problem is, i dunno where to start. it's like numbers, letters and images zooming in and out of my brain that makes me nauseous(tama ba spelling?) at times and sometimes in a brink of crying. i'm not ashamed to cry, and besides it feels better.

i want time to stand still

just for a moment or two

to make my mind still like water without a ripple

tired to think, tired to speak and too tired to move

i think my day is picking up. i just cleared the mechanism again.

guess who?

lot's of head guess who's the girl in this picture... ahihihi...

aprub!

Thumbs up!! hokay sa horayt! yun nga lang may dalawang unggoy sa background.. wahahahahha!

kodaker

there's someone missing.....ME!!! :(

due to demand, i've attached a photo of the team who went to La Luz. the sad part is.. I'M NOT IN IT...huhuhuhu

coming home

sigh! just got back from the beach and it was great! had a blast! the place was over-rated though, but overall it was nice. damn pebbles! ahahahaha! the entire beach are filled with pebbles, no sand just those damn pebbles.

the trip from La Luz Beach Resort, San Juan, Batangas was great! i drove ernest's 1991 honda civic hatchback all the way back to Manila. I tested that damn car to it's limit and it worked pretty well. the star toll in Batangas is one helluva highway but if i may comment on one thing, i noticed that there is not a single light post in the star till highway. who could've thought that with a car like ernest's it can reach to a speed of 160kph. for some people that's not fast but for the 3 people inside that small car it seems like riding a bullet train.

16 people off to have a vacation.... indeed they had one.

getting tired.. i'll just continue the story

alone, one and silent

sitting by myself
awaken by the noise no one else hears
finding answers to questions
that seems far to reach
pain inside, like a shadow waiting to creep all over, like memories wanting to go back to life
memories that lasts 6 feet under
all i want is to be alone, one and silent to rid the pain that blocks sanity within

anticipation turned into disgust - clear the mechanism

oooops!! anticipation turned into disgust! it's just weird that people agrees to something then all of a sudden changes their mind. just hope that my day brightens up!

CLEAR THE MECHANISM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

the day before the trip

it'll be one more sleep before our teams trip to La Luz Beach Resort in San Juan Bantangas(YEHEY!) at long last a well deserved outing for ernest's team. beach, sand and sun!! WOHOOOO!!

penguin popular classics

while reading the blog of my good friend and pakner john allan timbreza, i decided to make one myself. the title of my blog was inspired by a book that i started reading again.. the red badge of courage written by stephen crane. the book was just lying inside my locker for ages now and i decided why not finish it since i already read half of the book. ahahaha!!

well this will be a start of a series of exciting blogs from me. ahihi and i thank my pakner for that... see you around...